How to Not Be a Marites?
Lately, we’ve been celebrating this idea of being a “Marites”. But, what do we really mean by it? Are we slowly accepting that we are innately gossipers and that being a gossip is a good trait? Here on this episode, Aaron and I talk about this another piece of Filipino culture that took a digital leap, the obvious traits of a ‘Marites’ and how can we avoid becoming one of them.
What does being a "Marites" mean in Filipino?
In Filipino slang, the term "Marites" is often used to refer to a person, typically a woman, who is excessively talkative, chatty, or gossipy. It is derived from the name "Maritess" and has taken on a humorous and light-hearted meaning in colloquial language. Being called a "Marites" implies that someone tends to engage in a lot of idle chatter or enjoys discussing the latest gossip or rumors.
What happens when you gossip too much?
1) Damages Trust.
Gossiping erodes trust within relationships and communities as it creates an atmosphere of uncertainty and insecurity.
2) Spreads Negativity.
Gossip tends to focus on negative aspects of others' lives, perpetuating a cycle of negativity and fostering a toxic environment.
3) Breeds Mistrust.
When others observe someone gossiping, they become wary of sharing personal information, leading to a breakdown in communication and connection.
4) Harms Reputation.
Gossip can harm the reputations of individuals by spreading false or exaggerated information, leading to undeserved consequences.
5) Encourages Judgment.
Engaging in gossip promotes a judgmental mindset, where individuals make assumptions and form opinions without having complete or accurate information.
By avoiding gossip, you contribute to a more positive and supportive environment, build trust and respect with others, and foster healthier and more meaningful relationships.
“What you put out into the world will come back to you. ”
How to avoid becoming a gossiper:
1) Practice
Self-Awareness.
Be mindful of your thoughts, words, and actions, and actively recognize when you are tempted to engage in gossip.
2) Refrain Sharing Unverified Information.
Avoid spreading information that you have not personally confirmed or verified as accurate.
3) Redirect Conversations.
If a conversation veers into gossip, try to redirect it to a more positive or neutral topic that encourages connection and understanding.
4) Choose Your
Social Circles Wisely.
Surround yourself with individuals who prioritize meaningful conversations and positive interactions, minimizing exposure to gossip.
5) Foster Open and Honest Communication.
Encourage open and honest dialogue, where individuals feel comfortable addressing concerns or conflicts directly rather than resorting to gossip.
By consciously practicing these strategies, you can contribute to a more respectful and uplifting social environment and promote healthier and more meaningful connections with others.
“It’s a beautiful thing to spend time talking about encouraging, interesting, and life-improving things.”
From Episode 121 of Adulting with Joyce Pring: “How to Not Be a Marites?”