On Womanhood & Family Life

Coming your way a special episode for all the women out there striving and breaking barriers. Finally, we're joined by Kryz Uy as she share her journey from being a fashion enthusiast to now a wife, and a mom.

What is it like transitioning from a wife to a mom?

1) Your whole mindset shifts, you really change as a person.

Becoming a mother often leads to a shift in mindset. **The responsibilities and challenges of caring for a child can change your perspective on life and your own identity.** You may develop a heightened sense of selflessness, as your focus shifts from primarily taking care of yourself and your relationship as a wife to nurturing and providing for your child. This shift can lead to personal growth and a deepening of your understanding of yourself and the world around you.

2) You discover more things about yourself.

As you navigate the journey of motherhood, you may unearth qualities, strengths, and even weaknesses that you weren't fully aware of before. **The demands placed on you as a mother can reveal your capacity for nurturing, patience, and resilience.** You may discover new interests, talents, or aspects of your personality that are brought to the forefront as you navigate the challenges and joys of parenthood.

3) Your priorities change.

I valued all of these things. I thought this was the most important. And then now that I have my kids with me in the house, suddenly, everything isn't important anymore. It's just them. **Like, not that you lose yourself, but things are just put into perspective and you get to know yourself more.** *(KU)*

We're in all these facades and accouterments of like travel and beauty. **And all these nice things that you have, all of a sudden you can survive and thrive off of the basic things and still be joyful and happy and satisfied if you teach yourself.** And if you learn to really be content in that, that's a choice that you have to make and then you adjust accordingly. *(JP)*

“Marriage is not really hard if you’re married to the right person.”

— Kryz Uy

Why is it important to choose the right partner?

Kryz: Slater and I always talk about the importance of finding the right partner because we, we always say we can't choose our parents. We can't choose our kids. The only big major life decision that we can choose is our partner. Our partner can be the one to kind of make or break for the rest of your life.

Joyce: It's literally that the person that you spend your most time with will become you eventually to a certain extent, the way that you look at the world, the way that you understand people, the way that you handle your finances. Everything will be affected by the person that you marry and so it's the most important decision that you have to make.

How to know when you’re ready to tie the knot?

Joyce: Do something that you're very proud of for yourself. Travel the world on your own and kind of learn who you are before you get married because once you get married everything changes.

Kryz: Before you have kids or settle down, it's nice that you're able to take things off your bucket list, like really travel, really accomplish something on your own also, like not have to lean onto your partner for his successes so that even without your partner.

How to handle prejudice about you?

Kryz: I think what I've learned to do over the years is just to find humor in it. Because if you take everything so seriously, you're gonna kill yourself or stress yourself out or you're gonna get all of these unwanted wrinkles. These opinions don't matter because you know who you are. Let's just have fun with it. Because I think the moment that you look at it through a lens that's too serious, too negative, that's when it all colors. You can’t control all of these things.

How do you stay calm and rational during a heated argument with your partner?

Kryz: This a practice that I do personally. I always picture now when we're talking, there's somebody else in the room. Because when you're alone with someone, especially if it's a loved one or someone that you're so close to, chances are you're just going to let it rip, whatever you want because you're so comfortable with that person. But if you imagine that, “okay, my best friend sitting in front of me right now, how will I talk to this person so that he won't be embarrassed and I won't be embarrassed with how I'm talking to him?”.

Joyce: Familiarity breeds contempt. If you're so familiar with someone, it's so easy to be contemptuous towards them because lines get blurred and you guys are so vulnerable with each other. But if you can imagine someone is there, watching you have this conversation, then you’ll think of your words and actions more.