Dealing with High Expectations
We’ve done a two-part podcast episode with Brendan Burns. And on this second one, Joyce and Brendan both answered some of the community’s questions on boundaries, expectations, voicing out, and coping up with pressure.
Brendan Burns is the host of the top-rated apple podcast, The Brendan Burns Show. He is a High-Performance Strategist, Keynote Speaker, Podcast Host and former Wall Street Executive who transforms individuals and companies to maximize their potential in business and life. For nearly a decade, he has advised some of the world’s most recognized brands—from Fortune 100 companies, investment banks, top law and professional sports teams, to C-level executives, billion-dollar entrepreneurs of over 60 countries on 6 continents.
How To Deal With People With High Expectations From You?
Confront that person head-on, maybe they are projecting their own unmet expectations for themselves. Wanting to get onto the next level, know that it will never be going to be enough for everyone, no matter how big you get. The bigger a person gets, the more people will try to bring them down. (BB)
Another thing is that people must take away the idea that boundaries are a bad thing. One should be able to set boundaries especially when a person is close with someone because every individual is his own person. So, we need to be able to set those boundaries if we desire mutual respect to continuously flow in our relationships. (JP)
“If someone has these high expectations of you, talk to them and say, ‘Hey, when you do this, I feel a certain way.’”
How To Cope-Up With the Pressure From Older People Without Being Disrespectful?
In Filipino culture, children value their parents and grandparents in the sense that they have authority over the younger ones. So, whenever our generation does not agree with them, we usually feel that they would respond feeling disobeyed and disrespected. However, it doesn’t always mean that these people do not want to support you. Sometimes, they just want to be engaged. And this also applies to work, when talking to your leaders and bosses. (JP)
Many people in these types of situations, hold in what they actually feel because they think that by speaking their truth, they will be disrespectful. But that's not true. The disrespect happens in how you respond to your elder, who you obviously want to have respect for. Respecting them does not mean that we have to do everything they tell us, because sometimes, they only want to be heard. They want to feel important and significant and relevant, so get involved and explain to you what they’re thinking. (BB)
“Know yourself. We are not defined by our failures nor our successes. It’s always about how you are going to be centered in who you are.”
How To Be Confident Without Living By the Phrase “Fake It ‘Til You Make It”?
Confidence is crucial to success in all areas of life. Therefore, surrounding oneself with confident people is beneficial. Spend a lot of time with these kinds of people and you will get started up in genuine ways. In all facets, latching on getting close to building relationships with people who are confident and those who can see the good parts in someone, will help them out to operate in be in their true nature. And that’s powerful. Chase one’s best version of himself at all times. (BB)
A person will only see if they already actually gain of confidence when they started to practice using their own voice and stepping out of their comfort zone. And an individual can do that precisely by being surrounded with amazing people who actually believe in them, sometimes more than one believes in himself. (JP)
“The best advice I’ve received is that ‘Everything that we need to be happy and fulfilled is within ourselves.”
From Episode 79 of Adulting with Joyce Pring: “DEALING WITH HIGH EXPECTATIONS FT. BRENDAN BURNS”
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