Faith and Family
How can we be faithful to our spouse? What are the ways to be consistent in our yearly goals? Finally, we are joined by Joy Tan-Chi Mendoza to answer some of our AWJP fam’s questions about marriage and faith.
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How can we be faithful to our spouse?
1) Nurture a strong emotional connection
Invest time and effort in nurturing a deep emotional connection with your spouse. This involves actively listening, showing empathy, and expressing love and appreciation. When both partners feel emotionally satisfied and connected, it strengthens the bond and decreases the likelihood of seeking emotional connection outside the relationship.
2) Prioritize quality time and shared experiences
Make spending quality time together a priority. Engage in activities and hobbies that you both enjoy and create opportunities to build shared experiences. By prioritizing time with your spouse, you strengthen the connection and reduce the potential for seeking fulfillment outside the relationship.
3) Support each other's needs and desires
Be attentive to each other's needs and desires and make an effort to support and fulfill them within the relationship. Prioritize intimate and emotional needs, and be open and responsive to your spouse's requests and concerns.
Words of encouragement to women starting their families?
1) Take it one step at a time
Remember that finding your footing is a process, and it's okay to take things one step at a time. Don't feel pressured to have everything figured out right away. Take the time to learn and grow along the way, adjusting as needed.
2) Embrace the learning curve
There is no instruction manual for starting a family, and it's normal to feel unsure at times. Embrace the learning curve and be open to seeking guidance and advice from trusted sources such as family, friends, or professionals.
3) Embrace Imperfection
No one has it all figured out, and perfection is not the goal. Embrace imperfection and allow yourself to learn from mistakes and setbacks. Remember that it's the love and effort you put into your family that truly matters.
Does God play favorites?
God does not show favoritism.
God's love and grace are available to everyone, regardless of their background or circumstances. He treats each person with equal love and concern. In fact, the Bible emphasizes that God is impartial and does not discriminate. He views all people as equally valuable and offers salvation to anyone who seeks Him. It's important to remember that God's ways are beyond our understanding, and His ways are perfect. While we may not always comprehend why certain things happen or why God chooses to work in certain ways, we can trust that His plans are righteous and just.
How to go through bad things and still trust God?
1) Recognize the presence of suffering
Understand that suffering and challenges are a part of the human experience. The world we live in is imperfect and broken, and as a result, we may encounter hardships. It is not necessarily a reflection of God's absence or lack of care.
2) Acknowledge our limited perspective
As humans, we have limited understanding and often cannot see the bigger picture of our lives. Trusting in God means accepting that He sees and understands things that are beyond our comprehension. Even in the midst of difficulties, we can trust that God is working all things together for our ultimate good (Romans 8:28).
3) Look to the example of Jesus
Jesus Himself experienced immense suffering, including rejection, betrayal, and crucifixion. In our own suffering, we can find solace and inspiration in His example, knowing that He identifies with our pain and offers us comfort and hope.
4) Find strength in community
Surround yourself with a supportive community of believers who can offer encouragement, prayer, and practical assistance during difficult times. Sharing your pain and struggles with others can help alleviate the burden and remind you that you are not alone.
5) Allow space for grieving and healing
It is important to acknowledge and process your emotions as you go through difficult times. Give yourself permission to grieve, seek professional help if needed, and gradually work towards healing and restoration.
How can we be more faithful to Jesus?
1) Study the Word of God
Regularly read and study the Bible to gain a deeper understanding of Jesus' teachings, His character, and the principles that guide His followers. Engage in both personal study and group discussions to gain different perspectives and insights.
2) Develop a personal relationship
Seek to know Jesus on a personal level by spending intentional time in His presence. Cultivate a genuine and ongoing dialogue with Him, sharing your joys, concerns, and desires, and asking for His guidance and wisdom.
3) Serve others
Look for opportunities to serve and help those in need, following Jesus' command to love our neighbors and care for the least among us. Engage in acts of service and use your gifts and talents to make a positive impact in the world.
4) Live out your faith
Let your faith be evident in all areas of your life. Strive to integrate your beliefs into your daily actions, relationships, and decision-making processes. Allow your life to be a testimony of God's grace and love.
“If you marry the person, the journey will not feel burdensome.”
From Episode 189 of Adulting with Joyce Pring: “Faith and Family with Joy Tan-Chi Mendoza”