Regaining Your Footing After Being Disappointed
It is so hard to get back up after disappointing yourself or other people, but we cannot just lower our expectations just for us not to deal with it again. On this episode, Joyce Pring and Coach Lyqa Maravilla talked about how to be more mindful in overcoming these disappointments.
“The ultimate way to stop being disappointed in general in life is not to lower our expectations but to be more GRATEFUL.”
Disappointment – can be missed appointments, sometimes, if not most, it is out of our control. But there’s no limit of appointments you can have in this life so use that as a motivation for your next step.
How to Move On?
Maybe there’s something bigger in-stored that’s not just within your horizon yet. There’s a huge pay-off when we learn to wait (LM).
There is a difference between time and timing – Chronos and Kairos. Chronos is sequential time and Kairos is opportune time were things happened during that season. Most of us would likely look after Chronos but in reality what we should be looking after is the Kairos – it may not follow to the sequence of events that we have perceived it to be BUT it will happen in the correct time with regards to the opportune moment were in things fall into place in your life (JP).
It may not make things easier though, but it may help make you go through it. After all, you become disappointed because you are hopeful and it takes a certain level of courage to have that, you should give credit to yourself for that. If you weren’t hopeful in the first place, then nobody would try to change the world…
“It’s going to be a happy happy time when you understand why this happened to you.”
DEALING WITH IT
○ Stop pretending, Own the struggles you are facing then grow from it.
○ Know that it’s beyond your control. It’s just the nature of things. People tends to always want something more to be happy and contented but it will always be some sort of disappointment.
○ At the end of the day, it is a temporary fix. The high victorious feeling will eventually face, and that’s just how the cookie crumbles.
○ Acknowledge growth from it. Whatever happens, you still learn and grow from that disappointment. You before it and you after it is two completely different individuals. You still won – in a very distinct but a totally wonderful way.
○ Be self-aware and accountable. Maybe it just wasn’t the opportunity for you but maybe you also did not exert effort to actually achieve it.
How much do you really want this? If you do, then…
○ Take ownership over the next few years of your life – work extra hard.
○ Chase after that disappointment, even if it’s mean you against the world – go on.
○ Have a new and fresher perspective on hope and optimism.
“There world is still revolving… so it’s always up to us to decide if we want to try again.”
The world is waiting for you and as long as you’re alive, there is hope.
From Episode 105 of Adulting with Joyce Pring: ” REGAINING YOUR FOOTING AFTER BEING DISAPPOINTED”