How to be a Good Friend?
What does a “good friend” really mean? How can we be empathetic and encouraging especially to our friends who disagree with us? Part 1 of my conversation with 3 special guests from yesHEis on how we can be good friends and build lasting relationships!
What does a “good friend” truly mean?
One notable Bible verse that embodies the qualities of a good friend is Proverbs 17:17, which states: "A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity." This verse emphasizes the unwavering loyalty, support, and love that characterize a true friendship, especially during challenging times. The story of David and Jonathan in the Bible (1 Samuel 18-20) exemplifies the qualities of trust, loyalty, and sacrificial love between friends. Jonathan demonstrated immense loyalty to David, even at great personal cost, and their friendship serves as a powerful example of selflessness and devotion.
How does the message of love and hope from Christ impact the way we approach friendships, especially when interacting with non-Christian friends?
The message of love and hope from Christ greatly influences the way we approach friendships, including those with non-Christian friends. Christ taught us to love unconditionally, to show kindness and compassion to others, and to treat everyone with respect and dignity.
When interacting with non-Christian friends, the message of love and hope from Christ reminds us to approach these friendships with acceptance and an open heart. We can strive to be good listeners, understanding their perspectives, and being genuinely interested in their lives and experiences.
Rather than trying to impose our beliefs or judging them for their different views, we can use the message of love and hope to build bridges of understanding. We can lead by example, demonstrating the values and principles of Christ through our actions.
By showing unwavering love, empathy, and support, we can create a safe and accepting space within our friendships where meaningful conversations can take place. While we may share our faith with them when the opportunity arises, our primary focus should be on being a source of love, encouragement, and positive influence in their lives.
As a Christian friend, how can I navigate conversations about faith respectfully without alienating my non-Christian friends?
1) Listen attentively
Approach conversations with a willingness to truly understand your friend's perspective. Give them space to share their thoughts and feelings about faith without interrupting or imposing your own beliefs.
2) Respect their beliefs
Acknowledge and respect that your friend may have different beliefs or may not believe in God at all. Avoid judgment or dismissiveness towards their perspective.
3) Share personal experiences
Instead of preaching or trying to convince your friend about your faith, share your own personal experiences and the positive impact it has had on your life. Be open and authentic about how your faith has shaped you personally.
4) Use inclusive language
When discussing faith-related topics, use inclusive language that recognizes and validates your friend's beliefs or worldview. For example, instead of saying, "You need to believe in Jesus to find purpose," you can say, "In my own experience, my faith in Jesus has given me a sense of purpose."
5) Seek permission
Before bringing up faith-related topics, ask your friend if they are comfortable discussing it. Respect their boundaries and be mindful if they prefer to keep such discussions off-limits.
6) Be patient and understanding
Remember that faith is a deeply personal and complex topic. Your friend may need time to process and reflect on the information you share. Respect their journey and do not push or pressure them to adopt your beliefs.
7) Maintain the friendship
Above all, prioritize the friendship and the love and care you have for your friend. Remember that your actions and the way you treat them will often speak louder than words. Be a consistent source of support, understanding, and kindness
“Be honest in sharing your personal experience of God’s love in your life, because sometimes you are the only Bible that people get to see.”
From Episode 207 of Adulting with Joyce Pring: “How to be a “Good Friend?”