Avoid wasting your energy with these 5 TRICKS!!!
Adulting can be overwhelming, and sometimes, the most valuable thing you can do for yourself is to protect your energy. But what does that actually mean in real life? In this Adulting 101 episode, I share biblical wisdom and practical tools to help you set boundaries, choose wisely, release what you can’t control, and cultivate gratitude without guilt.
What does it mean to “protect your peace”?
Protecting your peace is about recognizing that your heart, mind, and soul are precious resources. When you allow negativity, distractions, or unnecessary stress to take over, you’re drained and less capable of showing up as the person God has called you to be.
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”
This means your peace directly impacts how you think, feel, and act. When you protect it, you’re not just doing yourself a favor, but you’re also honoring God and serving others from a place of fullness, not depletion.
1. Set boundaries without guilt
Boundaries are like fences around your garden, they protect what’s valuable inside. Without boundaries, you end up overcommitted, exhausted, and resentful. But many of us struggle with guilt when we say no. Here’s a perspective shift: every “no” is also a “yes” to something else—your family, your faith, your health, your rest. If you want to protect your peace, get comfortable with boundaries. Remember: you can decline without being unkind.
2. Choose your attles wisely
Not every argument, conflict, or pressure is worth your energy. The truth is, if you react to everything, you’ll quickly burn out. Protecting your peace means learning to discern what’s really worth addressing and what you can simply let go of. When you find yourself getting frustrated, ask: Will this matter a year from now? Most of the time, the answer is no. Choosing your battles doesn’t mean being passive, it means being strategic about where you place your emotional investment.
3. Release what you cannot control
One of the biggest thieves of peace is the illusion of control. We stress, plan, and overthink as if we could guarantee outcomes but life constantly reminds us that we can’t. Trust God with what you cannot control and take ownership of what you can like your mindset, your reactions, your faith. I became a happier person when I realized that absolutely nothing is in my control.
“Peace comes when you stop trying to manage the unmanageable and instead rest in God’s sovereignty.”
4. Practice gratitude daily
Gratitude is a spiritual reset button. When you focus on what you lack, you feel anxious and restless. When you focus on what you have, you feel grounded and joyful. A simple practice is to write down three things you’re grateful for each day. Over time, you’ll train your mind to notice blessings instead of problems. Gratitude doesn’t mean ignoring struggles, it means choosing to see God’s faithfulness even in the midst of them.
5. Pray for discernment
The most powerful way to protect your peace is through prayer. While boundaries, gratitude, and perspective are helpful, true wisdom comes from God. Praying for discernment allows you to cut through the noise of endless options and opinions. It helps you align your choices with God’s will so that you’re not just chasing busyness but you’re walking in purpose.
“Peace is not the absence of problems, it’s the presence of God in the middle of them.”